Parents and Discipline.
02-18-2010, 05:36 AM
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Being from a "desi" backround. (Indian/Pakistani) we have very strict discipline in our households. From an early age I got beat by "Chappal" or as you guys call them flip flops,wooden spatulas, hands, you name it. I still get the "smack" sometimes due to grades, or behavior.
Us indian/pakis don't believe in grounding the kids or taking away cell phones/video games/etc. The thinking is "A good beating" would fix the problem. Which I have to admit does.
I know we have many Indian/Pakistani members on this board they will recall these days. I also know we have many teenagers, fathers and mothers on this board. So kids/parents what type of discipline works in your house?
Us indian/pakis don't believe in grounding the kids or taking away cell phones/video games/etc. The thinking is "A good beating" would fix the problem. Which I have to admit does.
I know we have many Indian/Pakistani members on this board they will recall these days. I also know we have many teenagers, fathers and mothers on this board. So kids/parents what type of discipline works in your house?
02-18-2010, 05:44 AM
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02-18-2010, 08:03 AM
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Being from a "desi" backround. (Indian/Pakistani) we have very strict discipline in our households. From an early age I got beat by "Chappal" or as you guys call them flip flops,wooden spatulas, hands, you name it. I still get the "smack" sometimes due to grades, or behavior.
Us indian/pakis don't believe in grounding the kids or taking away cell phones/video games/etc. The thinking is "A good beating" would fix the problem. Which I have to admit does.
I know we have many Indian/Pakistani members on this board they will recall these days. I also know we have many teenagers, fathers and mothers on this board. So kids/parents what type of discipline works in your house?
Us indian/pakis don't believe in grounding the kids or taking away cell phones/video games/etc. The thinking is "A good beating" would fix the problem. Which I have to admit does.
I know we have many Indian/Pakistani members on this board they will recall these days. I also know we have many teenagers, fathers and mothers on this board. So kids/parents what type of discipline works in your house?
02-18-2010, 08:12 AM
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I agree, I am very strict with my boys now (they are 3 and 1) so that, hopefully, as they grow I can loosen up and let them make their own decisions. At some point you have to trust in what you taught your children and that they have absorbed and learned from it.
My parents were a lot like your "desi" ones, I guess Latin culture isn't all that different. While I do believe in "spare the rod, spoil the child" there are limits and there has to be a level of trust you have in your kids - yes they will make mistakes, but they only need harsh discipline when they don't and/or refuse to LEARN from them.
02-18-2010, 11:33 AM
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I come from a desi background too and my mom would smack me around when I was very young but my dad rarely hit me cause he hated smacking kids and always treated us like his best friends. If we did anything stupid he would only scold us but if it was something serious,he would smack me once and wouldn't talk to us for a couple of days. Over the years I got used to my mom smacking me around but my dad's methods were always effective. I'm 27 now so obviously things have changed, now I use the same discipline concepts on my son(4 yr old) and it seems to be working pretty well most of the times.
Pjinca I guess us desis, you latino folks share a lot of common things. Same way of parenting ANDDDD the food is the same level of "hotness/spicy". Plus many more things that I am to lazy to list. lol
02-18-2010, 01:12 PM
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so guess what? Fuck off. Preach to someone when you know the whole story.
Doesn't everyone pass the stage where you become better at something than your parents? I think so; its a right of passage (or whatever they call it).
Nah, if you have a stepfather who physically abuses you, you got my "ok"... just don't go overboard - block, apply some holds, show that DB his place and let him save his face for you mom's sake
Nah, if you have a stepfather who physically abuses you, you got my "ok"... just don't go overboard - block, apply some holds, show that DB his place and let him save his face for you mom's sake
02-18-2010, 01:23 PM
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+1 my mom is the only one that did the "severe" things. My dad raised his voice or give me a scolding when I was young but no physical stuff. But this type of parenting is effective I have to say.
Pjinca I guess us desis, you latino folks share a lot of common things. Same way of parenting ANDDDD the food is the same level of "hotness/spicy". Plus many more things that I am to lazy to list. lol
Pjinca I guess us desis, you latino folks share a lot of common things. Same way of parenting ANDDDD the food is the same level of "hotness/spicy". Plus many more things that I am to lazy to list. lol
I used to love it when my mom tried to smack me cause she would get hurt more than i did and at the end there was always a good meal after getting smacked.
02-18-2010, 01:24 PM
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02-18-2010, 07:47 PM
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